Fire Proof - A movie that recently came out. The analogy is that we must do whatever we can to make our marriages fire proof. Its a really good movie, you should check it out if it is playing in your area! But I would like to comment on something that stuck out to me personally. If you haven't seen the movie... watch for this in the beginning. The married couple speak of money briefly, but it is not a major theme (though it does play a role throughout). I personally feel that money issues are as big, if not bigger, than some of the other issues the characters have to deal with. (Not to lessen the importance of the other issues.)
It really stuck out to me that the two had separate bank accounts, separate money and they even separated the bills. What is up with this? I see and hear of so many couples that start out their marriage like this. Some have long and good marriages, some do not. Why would you want to ever have a marriage where it is said "The two shall become one" and yet you purposely build in a divider at the beginning?!?! Even if you bring money and bills into the marriage, I believe that part of the marriage committment is taking the good (income/money) and the bad(bills). But if you keep money separate like this, then this part of the marriage can almost becomes secretive between the two people or lead to arguments when purchasing decisions are made. Now, I am not saying that there are no reasons to have multiple accounts and even a little mad money here and there. I am saying that having separate money, separate accounts and separate bills can build in a seperation that eventually leads to separate lives. Whether that means divorce or not, who knows? That is your call. But it could mean that your marriage is not as complete as it could be.
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